Monday, July 12, 2010

HONOUR KILLING ( 2 )

मै अपने सभी readers और contributors का धन्यवाद करता हूँ कि आपने अपना समय निकाल कर इस ब्लॉग को पढ़ा और यहाँ अपने विचार शेयर किये.


मेरी हमारे समाज के हर तबके के लोगों से ऑनर किल्लिंग के इस चर्चित विषय पर बात हुई है. यकीन करें 80% लोगों ने इसको बिलकुल गलत बताया. अभी भी 20% हमारे गुर्जर भाई हैं जिन्हें यह सब सही लग रहा है. और इनमे वोह पढ़े लिखे लोग भी हैं जो अपने जीवन में कोई उपलब्धि हासिल नहीं कर सके. Frustrated और confused मानसिकता वाले लोग..!!

गुर्जर खून चाहे हमारे देश का हो या पाकिस्तान या किसी अन्य विदेशी मुल्क का - इस खून की रिवायत है जोश मे आना - सदीयों से है. गुर्जर एक genuine martial race है. जोश मे आना लाज़मी है. उन तीन लड़कों ने जोश मे ही कुछ गलत कर दिया ये बात एक तरफ है. दूसरी तरफ ये बात है की 20% लोग उनका समर्थन क्यों कर रहे हैं?

मेरा मानना है कि क्योंकि गुर्जर जो कि गुंडागर्दी, बदमाशी, माफिया, क़त्ल और अपहरण के लिए मशहूर रहा है - ये 20% लोग वो हैं जो बेचारे न 3 के रहे न 13 के..!! मतलब अपने जन्म से जवानी तक इन्होने गुर्जर को एक माफिया के रूप मे ही देखा, गुर्जर dons को ये लोग अपना आदर्श मानने लगे. लेकिन इनके माता पिता के अच्छे सन्सकारों ने इन्हें शिक्षा की ओर बढ़ा दिया. आज ये लोग शिक्षित तो हैं पर confused भी. आज ये अपनी उस दबी वेदना पर किसी दूसरे बिरादरी भाई के कृत्यों का मलहम लगा रहे हैं.

मै इस तरह के समाज सुधारकों से कहना चाहूँगा कि क्रप्या एक बार दस मिनट के लिए अपनी आँखें बंद कर के चिंतन करें और खुद के साथ न्याय करें.

आज आप pride & honour की बात कर रहे हैं - मै भी इन तीनों लड़कों का मुरीद हो जाता अगर ये अपनी बहनों को मारने के बाद अपने प्राइड - ओनर के लिए खुद को भी गोली मार देते तो..!!

अनिल गुर्जर ने बिलकुल सही लिखा है कि ये ऑनर किल्लिंग के समर्थक एक भी ऐसा वाकया बता दें जहाँ इनका ऑनर क़त्ल करने के बाद वापिस आ गया हो?

मैने अखबार मे पढ़ा था कि उन तीनों लड़कों में से एक सरकारी गवाह बन गया है. अगर ये सच है तो इसका मतलब किल्लिंग से ज्यादा ऑनर अब सरकारी गवाह बनने में है..!! सरकारी गवाह बनने के बाद अब वोह कैसे justify करेगा ऑनर किल्लिंग को??

कल के अखबार "हिन्दुस्तान" में एक सर्वे आया था जिसमे पूरे देश के सभी धर्म जाति के लोगों ने हिस्सा लिया. 90% लोगों ने माना कि कानून में संशोधन किया जाए ताकि ओनर किल्लिंग के मामलों में सख्त से सख्त सजा मिल सके.

और आज के अखबार में एक बहुत ही अच्छी खबर आई है - title है -" नोएडा की पंचायत मे ओनर किल्लिंग का विरोध" इसमें लिखा है की नोएडा के मोरना गाँव की पंचायत में बुजुर्गों और युवाओं ने ऑनर किल्लिंग को गलत ठहराया. पंचायत की अध्यक्षता मोरना गाँव के ही बुजुर्ग श्री रतन सिंह ने की. बच्चों को समझाना है पर जीवन नहीं मिटाना है... ये स्लोगन उन हत्याओं को रोकने का सन्देश था जो ऑनर किल्लिंग के नाम पर की जा रही हैं.

सब कुछ साफ़ है समाज में बदलाव आ रहा है. चाहे युवा हों या बुजुर्ग, हर कोई हत्याओं के खिलाफ हैं- कुछ मुट्ठी भर confused लोगों को छोड़ कर..!! ये pride और honour की बात करने वाले हमारे भाई जाने अनजाने में गुर्जर समाज का अहित कर रहे हैं. बड़ी मुश्किल से हमारे समाज के ऊपर लगा माफिया का लोगो हट रहा है. और आज का युवा गुर्जर शिक्षा का महत्व समझ रहा है.

गुर्जर अब mainstream मे आ रहा है - नाज़ुक क्षण हैं - इसलिए मेरे 20% भटके हुए भाइयों please किसी तरह के भड़काऊ प्रवचन न दें.

आपको honour की चिंता है ना तो ये भी जान लें कि गुर्जर समाज का honour हत्या करने से नहीं बढेगा बल्कि शिक्षा और सेवा से बढेगा.

12 comments:

  1. .i m fully agree n accept ur thoughts...after reading urblog n ur personal thoughts i hav no more.

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  2. namaskar sheel bro......i m overwhelmed sheel bro to read dis blog.once again u hav put my thoughts n feelings in front of our gurjar bros...i m really glad to hav a bro,a frnd like u.u r representing a true face of gurjar community......
    i don know how to thank u but i request u to keep on writing n also b ma frnd bro.
    today,2 things hav become very important 2 me...first,ofcourse u sheel bro...second,the MORANA PANCHAYAT RESOLUTION,its a boost for our mission bro...to make our brothers realize dat watever they r doing n thinking is absolutely a condemned act.
    gurjars hav been known for mafia,don,dacoits n so on....but today d scenario has changed...we r doing well in almost every field.
    so,in dis situation when gurjars r on d way to b at par wid other casts,we ourselves shud not create any hindrances like dis HONOUR KILLING..we hav 2 go a long way bro n dis is not possible wid these activities.if our bros cannot support in this progress,i request them not to create such havocs,which pull back d progressing portion of gurjars.
    also,dis MORANA PANCHAYAT RESOLUTION has shown clearly dat not only young blood is against dis HONOUR KILLING but d most experianced n respected portion,d oldmen n women,also condemn dis,which is a great support for our young bloods,we use to take it as AASHIRWAAD,a heartiest thank to all MORANA PEOPLE,,
    N..those who r still in dialemma,i mean,those who says dat they r unable to decide whether dis act was right or wrong,i wud like to say,dat,u will alwaz b like dis,,m sorry to say dis,but,even animals know wats right or wats wrong for them.By saying dat u r unable 2 say nythng abt dis HONOUR KILLING,u r just giving a diplomatic answer,which is a symptom of conservative nature,u people don wanna to b a part of society bcoz u r afraid of honour loss or somthng like this,but frnds all dis is a part of life,u hav to say wat u feel,wat u expect from society.its not like dat u do ur own job n eat n sleep.u hav 2 b a part of society,coz society is not made up of houses n trees in a place,but d people in a place constitutes it.SRI RAM had to face many up n downs,rather mostly downs only in his life,but he did not act like u,UNABLE TO DECIDE WATS RIGHT WATS WRONG,so my dear frnds change ur way of thinking,come n join either part of our society.we hav to come ahead if we really want our society go ahead,

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  3. Hi, sheel I fully agree to your views. But rather than discussing on HONOR KILLING we should think about why these incidents are happening and what are the Causes. Is this that the people forget our culture or something else ? Do you think people who have been killed in HONOR KILLING was guilty or not? if yes then what should be punishment for them? and I think there should be some alibis for the HONOR KILLING.

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  4. sir me app se puchana chahuga ki agar koe apni sarafat ko apni kamjori samajhta hai , or sari had par kar deta hai to ease me apne hak ki ladae ladna koun sa galat kam hai , sub log ye sahan kar sakte hai par gurjar ke 90 per ladke es ko sahan nahi karege or phir hamare es kadam ko koe or gundagardi , badmasi , mafiya jaise sabd jode usse kya , ye to apne purvazo ne bhi kiya tha unhone bhi to british sasan ka virodh kiya tha , une bhi to bagi jaise sabdo se jana jata tha , time badla hai us hisab se hum bhi badle hai , me kisi ek metter ko lekar bat nahi kar raha hu me sare samaj ki bat kar raha hu , ab app bataeye isme galat kya haior sir jin 20 per logo ke badlne ki bat app kar rahe hai or aap ke sath80 per log bhi yahi chahte hai ki wo badle , app chahte hai ki wo pade bade me bhi chahta hu per padae ke sath ye to nahi hai ki app apne hak ke liye na lade ye bhi to hame app jaise kisi ne hame nahi sikhaya lekin jub jaurat hogi desh ko samaj ko yahi 20per log kam ayege meri bate sunkar app mujhe bhi enhi 20 per logo ki list me samil kar dege , per easa nahi hai ,app sirf ek plus poit dekh rahe hai kabhi sir sochiye nigetive poient ke bare me , kya har jagah halat ek jaise hai , kya ye subke liye pasibal hai jaisa app chahte hai , hamare blog likhne se kuch nahi hota sir , jara bahar akar dekhiye halat kya hai , blog me kya jo mujhe laga maine dekh liya , or coment kar diya or subne bhi yahi kiya hai , app ko jo achha laga wo appne likh diya , per kya yahi asliyat hai , hum me se na me na app or na ye or blog padne walo me se koe hakikat se parchit nahi hai

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  5. hi sheel sir... this ajeet...

    mai jyada time nahi lene wala bas itna kahunga koi bhi apne privar ko apne hatho nahi marna chahata hai bas kuch majbooriya kuch halat aise ho jate hai ki aadmi apni jaan bhi de deta hai.. no doubt killing galat hai owner ho ya nahi ....
    but itne serious topic ke baare me A.C. ke neeche computer pe baithke kuch nahi kiya ja sakta hai iske baare me wo hi kuch bata sakte hai jinke sath hua ya jinhone ise dekha hai...

    Bas ye hi kkahunga ke agar ise rokna hai to apne jameer apni antaraatma ko bechna hoga or jo ye nahi kar paate wo yehi kaam karte hai.
    or ha hamara education system is cheez ke liye sbse jayada jimedaar hai.hame padaya jata hai ki duniya itna aage chali gayi hai or hum inhi pagalpan ke kaamo me lage hai. ye kaam pagalpan ke nahi hai hamare bade bujurge ne jo diya hai use hi bachane ki koshish hai o kuch nahi.news channel dekh ke log kahte hai ki galat hai bcoz wo use hi or utna hi dekhte hai jitna news chennel wale dikhate hai.mai to finally ye hi kahunga ki apne desh ko apni sanskariti ko bachao ise bachane ke liye pata nahi hamare kitne bujurge ne jaan di hai but ab situation badal gayi hai pahle bahar ke log hamari sanskariti ko mitane me lage the b hamare apne hi iske piche lag gaye hai unhe to bhaga diya but inhe bhagana bahut muskil hai ..

    BAS FINALLY YE HI BOLUNGA SAHI GALAT KUCH NAHI HOTA JIS KAAM KO DIL KAHE WO KARNA CHAHIYE....CHAHE DESH SEVA HO YA OWNER KILLING..


    THANKS U SO MUCH....
    AJEET KHARI

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  6. yes sir U r absolutly right. I m against intercast marrige. But I really hate against so called honour killing. i do not understand that how is killing be called houner in the civillized world. even a child know that killing is wrong. it is totally barberic, unhuman, fullish, talibinization act. I do not understand why r we spreading Talibnization in our cast. Let us condem it.

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  7. Hi sheel sir! How r u? u take such a explosive topic of our community nd definatenely u will get many comment on this topic,i thnk most comment will go on ur favor bt u will have to face some comment which is definately in against of u because it has a reason. i dont no it is right or wrong.first reason we all no....illetracy.because of ur blog u just add some limited people nd offcourse they are well setteled nd decent people bt how can u reach many illitrate people in our comm.how will u take ur campeign in all villages.Honour Killing is not just our comm. prob.it is prob.to many comm.like jat,chauhan,saini,yadav nd many more.how will u spread ur thinking of thease comm.I thnk Honour Killing is big prob.of India,not India our neighbour countery also facing this prob.How u set up whose 20% people's mind which is found in every comm.I dont no how will u do? bt lets hope the best."HUM SUDHRENGE, JAG SUDHREGA" FIRST u need to save our home.koshish to achchi hai par dekhte hai safar kitna lamba or effective hota hai.Best of luck.

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  8. hi sheel,i read ur blog and im agree with you.keep it up.

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  9. hi sheel i am jitenda singh gurjar sr. lecturer in kanpur institute of technology kanpur i read your blog and i fully agreed and i request from all gurjar of the world please mind on education.

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  10. computer ke samme beth kar blog par kuch bhi likhna bahut simple hein .......par mein ek baat kahunga kuch thode bohat padhe likhe gujjar ye sochte hein vo kafi advance hein . jaha tak honour killing ki baat hein iss par ham jyada hu halla na machae to acha hein ..... sheel gujjar jee mein appse kehna chahta hun ki honour killing ke alawa aur bhi kafi problems hein gujjars mein unn par dhayan dena chaiyea.rajasthan mein reservation ka matter hein , kashmir mein complete reservation ka matter hein .Dowry hein .appko shayd ye nahi pata kashmir aur rajasthan mein gujjars mein 40% bacche after birth mar jate hein .....vo bhi sirf ku-posaan ki wajah se ..... iss liye mere ye personal soch hein honour kiliing ke iss topic iss badha chadha ke pesh nahi karna chaiyea

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  11. hi sir nice blog ...............................i would like to say that y this hue and cry is only for girls marrying in other cast.................y nt fr boys .........................all gujjars highly admire sachin piolt ...... i also admire him...........bt he has also done inter cast marriage bt nobody says anything against him ...........................wahan gujjars ke so called pride ko koi chot nahi pouhchi...................y this issue is nt applicable fr high profile people and spc boys....y only fr girls...........................i also dont like the idea of intercast marriages........................bt i strongly condemn this killing on the name of honour .........................instead of this we should think the reason behind all such acts..............................................................the only solution is to educate our society nd change the mind set of people. bt the problem is that we only look at the urban gujjars bt they r far more better than gujjars in rural areas ......last yr i visited sm places of mathura where i was simply shocked by lifestyle of gujjar people there.......................they r nt only uneducated bt their living condition are vry poor.most of the children r married who hardly know the meaning of marriage ......i think we all should more emphasis on condition of these people rather than discussing honour killing.................the most prominent reason of gujjars being backward is a lack of education ....................................so we should fix that problem first of all other problems of gujjars r also associated with lack of eduaction.....................so we all should launch a nation wide campaign on eduaction for gujjars to nt only eduacate men,womens, elders, nd childerns bt also give counselling on issues such as dowry,medical check-ups,thier health issues etc..................................this is what i feel .....................................nd corrections r always invited ...........................plz let me know that

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  12. Manish Nagar (nagar.manish01@gmail.com)August 21, 2010 at 3:33 PM

    I appreciate your effort Sheel bhai that you are contributing in upbringing of the community by all possible means available. For honour killing, I must say that whatever you said; most of it was true and correct, however I do feel that you cannot disregard the feeling of people who are in favour of the killings saying that they are the ones who have seen gurjars as Dons. It is true that killings were unfortunate but at the same time what the girls did was also something which shouldn't have happend in first place. To me a person should behave according to the place and situation always " In Rome Be Like Romans". For e.g. No one would allow any woman he loves and respect to wear mini skirt or any revealing western dress in a family function, however a person might allow the same dress to be worn incase you are there in any Europeon Country, for the simple reason nobody there would mind it though in a family function people might take it as offensive and shameful. Similarly if you are born in village and you want to go against the set norms and tradition people will not welcome it, the same thing can be a normal day to day scene in mordern world. So to me instead of hating those people we should try and understand the place they live in and should make an effort so that not only few of the educated ones but also the masses should come walk with the modern world for the betterment of our community

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